Monday, August 17, 2009

Of pain or cheating.

After being photographically anonymous on facebook for about six months, i finally gather the courage to upload my picture and thus begins the legend of the one who like me!
Thursday; i chat with this guy who saw me on flixster, decided my name sounded funny and added me as a friend.I thought he was boring at first and almost ditched him but somehow we ended up on messenger.
P.S; He gave me his number, told him i''d call. i may
Friday; He sends me a message.' i don't bite, call me' I smile and text him back. i check his profile, I'm 'good friends' on his movie compatibility.
Saturday; i spent learning how to swim[i'm still scared of drowning]. Met my primary school classmate on facebook. it's been twelve years he says. i know. We have a funny history together. i can't help laughing as i remember.
Sunday; i decide to call. Cowardly me, hides my number to be sure he's not a crazy. Nice voice, doesnt séem schizophrenic even if weird. He has my taste in books and movies, we flow well. he asks for my number. I'm thinking about it, I say.
Monday; My poor boyfriend has been on call for two days, calls me in the afternoon.'Thanks for calling'he says though he's teasing but i'm acting all guilty and i tell him jokingly about my new boyfriend on facebook. He laughs through the phone. 'Tell him my boys will arrange him' He says and i laugh. i wonder if he believes me or doesn't care. sometimes, i hate that he doesn't get jealous, I wonder what he'd say if he knows i'm single on facebook!
Now there are two thoughts in my head. Change my single status to 'In a relationship' But, i really hate boxes OR
it's just harmless flirting, i'm networking. really!
Then two counter thoughts.1] If i do change my relationship status,then i run the risk of perpetually changing status for each subsequent breakup.But flirting is never static but dynamic and i actually love boyfy.
So, i read somewhere the definition of being unfaithful and it says that being unfaithful is the act of engaging in sexual relations with someone other than your regular partner OR thoughts of engaging in sexual relations with someone other than your partner. Technically, this means that cheating is an actual or potential act of unfaithfulness which is similar to 'pain' a response to actual or potential tissue damage .
Newton's first law states that for every action, there's an equal and opposite force of reaction
Hence Flirting->p unfaithfulness->p heart break. Where p= constant pain.
But would it count that i'm not actually sleeping or thinking of sleeping with anyone? i guess not. In the world of maths, you're either A or B. And where do i fall? still trying to figure it out.


  1. Hmmm. If you're looking up the definition of unfaithful, then that's really serious.

    Good luck with whatever you do sha! Be careful...

  2. I don't you are cheating or being unfaithful
    n d relationship status on fb, i just randomly change it all the time....fb doesn't determine u in real life

  3. Rene no be pipo dey break up with each other on FB? Dey ruin their lives for FB? It is some pipo's life oo

  4. I put nothing on my relationship status on FB abeg. Must everyonee know what happens to me all tthe time. There are so many nosey peckers overthere jare.

  5. i don't think u are cheating... unfaithful is too stong a word to use. maybe flirting sums it up.....

  6. err...i dont think ur cheating either...but u seem to be weighing up ds ur flixster guy maybe u do need to be checking up unfaithful...abi?
    but...u say u love boyfi innit? ehn wahala naw....

  7. Miss fab; thank u, i'm just being careful
    rene; amen to that. thanks for stopping by
    Nice Anon; thanks but i don't think i'm breaking up anytime soon
    sassy trends;exactly! sometimes the social networking thing just kills me
    Prettykay; i know, right?
    Naija bad boi;maybe i'm weighing him but it's just harmless abi?
    Thanks people, i guess it's just me being cautious.

  8. i don't think its cheating until you actually form an emotional attachment and start comparing notes.

    until then its just harmful friendship (where i usually stay)

  9. At this stage, i dont think you're being unfaithful. But...the question is would you mind if he did the same?

  10. @tisha; lol @ harmful friendship!
    Retro; the thing is, i actually wouldn't mind. And it's the first time i've asked myself that.
    thanx for stopping by,u two.

  11. Not to worry, you 'fall' here.

  12. Hey! Been a while. You're not cheating but when you find that you want to the other guys more than your bf, then there's a problem there..

  13. This is SO thought provoking! I was JUST having this same convo with my bf. I mean, am i supposed to inform him everytime im speaking to another guy? He said NO but he WOULD be jealous and probably kill him if we got close. So bear the fact that if u were in the same position u would NOT have it lol
    I posted the FUNNIEST video of the effects of facebook on relationships...

  14. Rethot; i never seem to get u but okay!
    unwritten;very soon. thanx for stopping by.
    elusive babe;thank you
    Buttercup;yeah it's been a while, just can't seem to write these days but it will soon be rectified. thanks for d advice.
    onysta; It's not just me !! And that is so true, i wouldn't want that.Thanx